Wednesday 28 January 2009

Cast Out

The small brother and sister to be sent for adoption outside their family when their grandparents wish to bring them up are an indictment of the false values embodied in our social services.

Grandparents, even when the grandmother is only 46, are not like parents, they are an alternate generation and act very differently from parents. However, the least we might expect a 'social' service to do is provide support to a family disrupted by the long term unavailability of the mother. Infants so disadvantaged are cared for in most societies by grandparents or parents' siblings - indeed by all of them. They are never put out of the family.

We know this, we all know this because this is really our culture too. Which raises the question of what kind of people would seek to persist in adopting these children in the face of their own family's efforts to bring them up, and determined opposition to their being removed to the care of strangers?

A better explanation than not commenting on specific instances, which could be cast in the most general terms, had better be offered soon or a great deal of damage will be done to potential adopters of all kinds and, worse, irreversible damage could be done to these two small children.

10 comments:

Sackerson said...

On the face of it, this case (which I read in the dumbo's Daily Mail) is sick-making. There's something of the "teach you a lesson" in it.

Anonymous said...

Speaking as someone who was brought up by his grandmother in her fifties, I am horrified at the thought of missing her loving care for that of a couple of strangers no matter how lovely and well meaning.

banned said...

An 'adoption professional' told me ( adoptee ) recently that it is public policy to insist upon contact with the biological parents after the event of adoption. In my case they can forget it, I have no wish whatever to explore that but it seems that current Service Users will have no choice.
Back on topic, of course blood relatives should have 'first choice' in adoption procedures in the event of the parents death but Social Services have little appreciation of our culture especially when it comes to them being in charge.
How did we let this happen ?

Sue said...

I couldn't bring myself to blog about this, I was too upset by it.

Anonymous said...

Why is there even any question of adoption in this case?

The children concerned are being cared for in their natural family.

How dare the State try to interfere in this? Who thinks they have the right to do so?

I am so furious about this I am finding it hard to think straight; how did we get into such a disgusting totalitarian situation?

How dare they.

lilith said...

this is hideous. Utterly hideous. I just can't see how they could get here. Why do social services have more say than the grandparents in any of these decisions anyway?

wv = priml

hatfield girl said...

There is going to be an avalanche of cases like tis, I fear, when this regime is finally closed down. Concern about the economic and financial ruin will be over-matched by the social ruin.

Sackerson has written more than once about the 'gramscian' theories being put, literally, into practice in the literalist UK, L.

That's where it's coming from, this destruction; hald digested ideology that was half-baked and purely theoretical in the first place. Raedwald fingers Rousseau but they can't manage anything further back than the 20th century. Their Leader welcomed countrywide broadband with the remark that it would be as essential to the 21st century as roads, bridges, railways and electricity had been to the 20th.

In the end words will fail me, they really will. Today I bought 2 books on signing; pure thought instantly communicated by gesture is what I need.

Anonymous said...

Can we expect Dave to go for another "Baby P" moment in next week's PMQs? These idiots really need putting firmly back in their boxes.

(Utterly Disgusted of etc...)


[wv: tiatuate - that looks like a hint for another definitions compo!]

Anonymous said...

Not of this thread, but earlier this week we were discussing the situation in Glenrothes and whether the PM might lose his own seat right next door in a forthcoming election.

It has just been announced that a large firm in Glenrothes (Velux Windows) is about to close down. I now wonder how many (now-ex) workers at Velux live and vote in Brown's constituency. I still feel that (assuming he stands again) he will have a hard fight to keep his seat, and the SNP can only be encouraged by this tragic development; and I imagine there are others to follow.

Good demographic stuff from Elby with all that data. I wonder what else they are collecting that they don't publish!

lilith said...

Invasion Of The Bodysnatchers. Only possible reason. And Brown looks as tho' he could do a good Donald style scream. (Pace the 50s version, which I enjoy more, fine tho' the remake is).

I am after all, a child of the 50s. 60s - Sunday horror movie double bills at a local fleapit. Bliss.